(RNS) — When Rabbi Steven Burg asks young Jews how they see themselves, the answer he hears most often is, “We’re the people everyone hates.”
The response to the attacks on Israel on Oct. 7 accelerated this feeling for many Jews on campus and other environments where lines were drawn between support for an occupied Gaza and the security of the Jewish state and people. Progressive coalitions found themselves fracturing. Interfaith partnerships strained to stay together. Students found themselves abandoned by people they thought were allies. But Burg says the problem runs deeper than politics.
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From RNS and the Institute for Religion, Politics and Culture, this is Complexified, a podcast for the religiously curious and politically frustrated. I’m Amanda Henderson.
Rabbi Steven Burg has been asking young Jews a question — What does it mean to be Jewish? — and he keeps getting the same answer: We’re the people everyone hates. Not, “We’re here to repair the world,” not, “We’re a light unto the nations,” just “We’re the people everyone hates.” That’s the problem he’s trying to solve, because the attack on Jews by Hamas on Oct. 7, 2023, didn’t just kill 1,200 people. It killed friendships. Progressive coalitions fractured overnight. And young Jews are sitting in the wreckage.
Burg wrestles with this question: How do you build an identity that isn’t just about who hates you when people keep proving they might? Last week, Rabbi Burg wrote an op-ed for Religion News Service arguing that Jewish identity can’t be built on trauma. It has to be about something positive.
Rabbi Steven Burg, welcome to Complexified.
Thank you so much, Amanda. Thank you for having me.
Grateful to have you. It’s been two and a half years since the horrific attack on Oct. 7. You have stated that it wasn’t the attack alone that caused the trauma, but the abandonment or betrayal that Jewish people experienced from their allies in the aftermath. How do you heal from that betrayal?
It was pretty amazing, I think, across the board to the Jewish community that those who we were friends with on Oct. 6, by Oct. 8 were gone, out the door, abandoned us. Things that were literally videotaped by Hamas that were shown on Facebook by Hamas were being denied. And so in some ways it was so much different this time than it was so many other times. And so there’s, I call this a kind of communal trauma. Just like, people that you had thought you were as thick as thieves, we’re buddies, I’m there for you when you need it. And you talk to young people on college campus, they’ll tell you this was roommates. These were people they did work for classes with. These were people that they saw as real friends, and they were absolutely abandoned overnight. So I think collectively it was really difficult. And so for us now, there’s this period, it’s two and a half years of trying to get hostages back. So it was very hard for the community to focus on anything else. Now we’re into, we’re kind of like in the post-show, and how does this all wrap up? Where do we focus? And so, there’s a lot of that going on amongst the Jewish people.
You said this isn’t the first time that people from our Jewish community here in the United States have been struck by attacks and hardship and antisemitism. That is a theme and a story that is as old as the people of Israel. How did this experience tap into that historic memory and trauma, especially for young people who might not have directly experienced that in their lifetime?
Sure. For a lot of people, I would say the modern era has been defined by the Holocaust. That was when everything went way further than it ever had been historically. And I think also worldwide there had been nothing like it. And I think if you look back to that trauma, and we were very blessed to have many survivors who could speak to us over the years and unfortunately now you have less and less, which is something we have to deal with. But if you talk to them, people understood first good versus evil. The United States of America went to fight the evil of the Nazis. And afterwards, thankfully the U.S. Army had all kinds of video, well, I call them videos, but then it was film taken of the camps and really had made so many of their soldiers go by and see them to see this evil up front. So even right away, there was this understanding that the Jews had gone through something really serious and it kind of formed who we were as a result coming out of it.
First, probably most famously, the Holocaust ends in 1945. The U.N. mandate for Israel to be created is 1948. That’s three years later. And the Jews basically say, okay, if someone says they’re going to destroy us, we’re going to take them at their word. But I think it’s more than that. Like if you look at the United States of America, which is one of the greatest countries, probably the greatest I think ever created in the history of the world, where they just rejected a monarchy and came here and said we’re going to have freedom of religion, freedom of speech, all these amazing things. You see a lot of what came out of that. Like for example, in the push for civil rights and joining with the African American Black community. Jews were at the forefront of that. And why was that? That was because a few short years before we had gone through the Holocaust and we understood what it meant to be oppressed. And therefore you see really in many decades post that, Jews always defending the oppressed and joining these organizations and making sure that we’re building hospitals and making sure we’re building universities and we played this major, major role.
And then here we kind of roll up to October 7th, and it’s been going on really, we’ve been getting demonized over this for the last two or three decades and all of a sudden we become the oppressors and claim that we’re oppressors even though we’re the ones being murdered and raped. That’s really, I think, hard for these young Jews to put into context and they can know all that history, but all I know is that my professor is getting up and saying that they hate me. And what we’re telling them is big deal, man. We’re going to get past it. We’re leaders, we do great things to the world. You’ve got to compartmentalize that and just know that your wonderful professor, although he’s a big shot on campus, morally and ethically is a tiny person.
How has that pain of the history shaped you personally as a rabbi?
Look, I think exactly what I’m saying to young people is exactly the way I feel. I feel that the Jewish people have a role in this world. Our role is to be a light unto the nations. Our role is to make sure that the world operates in ways that are appropriate. It’s to build caring and empathy for others. And so I don’t let what other people, I don’t let the haters define me. I could literally sit on X every single day and go down rabbit hole after rabbit hole of people that hate us and frankly it used to be fringe.
It’s not as much fringe.
And right now we’re seeing it on the radical left and we’re seeing it kind of like on the radical right. And a lot of us are saying, you guys have got to make decisions. You can’t have people that hate us in the midst of your movements. And so we’re very confident. I guess that’s the best word I can say in that what we want to give the world. And they’ve always been detractors for whatever reasons, they don’t want to accept that. And but it’s not, it can’t stop our mission of bringing good to the world.
One of the things I think about with young people specifically is that they have long had this posture of challenging institutions, right? And I’ve got kids in their 20s and that is their job, challenging institutions. How are young people navigating this tension that can happen between critiquing, for say, the Israeli government, while also holding on to that Jewish identity and commitment to the people of Israel?
You know, the whole point of democracy is you have elections and if you don’t like what’s going on, you go out and you run candidates and you operate within. And I think it’s just so interesting, I think, to all of us, fascinating. Interesting is a crazy word to use, but Israel is literally in a part of the world where there are no democracies. It’s all monarchies and it’s all, you saw with Iran, they rose up to try and protest and they just kind of secretly killed a couple, tens of thousands of people and everyone just yawns, right? And Israel is literally under this microscope and, so I tell him, I don’t have a problem.
I mean look, I run an institution based in Israel, believe me, I have many politicians that I have issues with and they know it. I’m friendly with them. I know people on the left, on the right, and it’s democracy. You’re doing your thing. But the fact that a voice is given to the people, I have Arabs that work for us who are great, and they can vote in Israeli elections. And it’s understanding. I figure what we’ve been up against is propaganda that’s just not true. It’s just not true. This demonization of Israel and this total double standard. And that’s what you have to tell them. You say look, this is what was going on there, it’s just that the world is not made up of oppressors and oppressed. You can’t just define the whole world like that and especially if your oppressor is not really an oppressor.
So I think we’re complicated in that regard. Yeah, and I think we’re seeing from our community you’re seeing two different things. Some of our young people are really rising up. One of our alumni is someone by the name of Shabbos Kestenbaum, who sued Harvard. And my organization got a 999-page subpoena from Harvard asking us for footage when they were fighting it. And I think there are a lot of young Jews who have fought back against universities saying, “You’re insane. The fact that you’re not protecting students who pay a lot of money to be there to just have the ability to walk across campus is crazy.”
And this administration I think has been has been fabulous in trying to help us with that. But then unfortunately you have a lot of Jews, over 70% of Jews in America are not particularly connected to their religion. And so you have Jews that, even if they had a Jewish star would kind of just tuck it in or kind of like put it in the background and stuff. And it’s a shame because later on in life they’re going to be thirsting for that connection.
Rabbi Burg, you said that America was crushing in a way that Europe wasn’t. What did you think America was and do you still believe in that?
Yeah, I travel the world and Jewish communities are very, very close. There’s not a lot of us in the world. There’s about 15 million Jews in the entire world. So anytime you go to any country, you go to the Jewish community, you stay there. And Europe, we’ve been used to this for decades now, that if you go to a synagogue in Europe, there is heavy police presence, there’s heavy security. But America wasn’t like that. America, you just walked into a synagogue. This is the largest, America contains the largest group of Jews outside of Israel. And especially, I grew up in New York, being in New York and you didn’t really have that need for security. I tell you the last five, ten years it’s all changed.
And now we do have heavy security at all of our synagogues and temples.
And it’s very crushing and you go on social media and you find all these people talking about the harm they want to do Jews and then it actually plays out as it’s happened in certain cities around the United States where we’ve had violence against us. And so it’s just very hard because like I said, we’ve had a love affair with this country for so long, going all the way back to the Revolutionary War where there were Jews like Haym Salomon, who was one of the people that helped to really finance the Revolutionary War and was very close to George Washington. And there’s even a beautiful letter from George Washington to the Jewish community to say, “We’ve got your back.”
So it’s just very hard for us because we love this country so much and just to see that we’re not getting the same religious protections we once did. And there’s so many more of these people out there is really difficult.
One of thing you talked about earlier that is lingering for me is that you’re moving into a new phase of kind of grief and healing in the two and a half years since October 7th. Can you talk to me a little bit about that history of rebuilding that Jewish people have been doing for centuries over time and how that informs how you’re thinking about healing now?
It’s such a great question because we have been through these cycles so many times and I think, and I’ve read a lot of op-eds about this and I’ve tried to explain this to the world that traditionally, every time we walked into a country, we were looking for the exit, right? Meaning if we went to Spain, we’re looking at North Africa. We went to England, we’re looking at France in the Middle Ages. We were constantly getting bounced around different countries, different circumstances. And we would move, obviously. Post the Holocaust many Jews came over to America or Latin America, other places.
The difference is we’re not looking at Israel like that anymore. We’re not looking, and famously Golda Meir said, our secret is we have nowhere else to go. And we feel like we’re back in our homeland after 2,000 years. And so we’re going to defend our homeland. And so I think that attitude has changed. And that’s why Jews feel so strongly about Israel, is that it is the only Jewish country in the world and it’s a country that if God forbid anything happens to us as has happened over the years, it’s a place that will defend us.
And so what happened two-and-a-half years ago in that country that is there to defend the Jewish people and be a Jewish state, to have so many people raped and murdered, the largest massacre of Jews since the Holocaust was very difficult to see. For two-and-a-half years we all had yellow ribbons and we were waiting to see the hostages returned. And I don’t know that anyone had thought we would get to the moment, and it really thanks to this incredible administration that they help us get there where every single hostage was brought home and even to the point we feel very strongly about even after someone’s passed away, even the bodies came back to the families, which was very important to us.
So now it’s kind of like, okay, we had this go on, we’re seeing this stuff around the world, how do we get back to that positive mentality? How do we get back out there? And it’s well documented that when there is a hurricane somewhere, Israel sends a medical tent. That’s who we are. That’s who we want to be. We don’t want to be fighting and defending ourselves like this. We want to build the world. So to me, we’ve got to tell young people, “Okay, we’re post two-and-a-half years. We’re going to remember the people there.” I’ve been down to the Nova Festival many times. It’s still moving to see the memorial there. But let’s use that, because all those young Jews would want us moving forward and just creating a better place for all of us.
Yeah, can you share some more specific examples of what Jews are doing right now that embodies that healing?
So the biggest thing for me I think is the internet and social media and the stuff we’re watching today, a lot of the hate flowing around. So I’ll just say for our organization, Aish in Israel, we’re doing a tremendous amount of education online. We’re like turning it around. So we can reach every Jew and many non-Jews come to our site, aish.com, to ask questions about Judaism. Ask us who we are, understand who we are, and not to tell you that technologically with AI it has been a total game changer for us because we can do every single language in the world now.
You go to aish.com. An AI rabbi is there to answer questions. And then if they’re deeper questions, you can be transferred to a live rabbi. But a lot of questions are very basic. And so we’re trying to create these places so you can understand this better, you can grow more. So it’s like anything in the world. The internet could be a place of hate or it could be a place of love. And so we need to make these spaces places of love for everyone.
What are you hearing from young people about their vision for what they hope for for their next stage of Jewish identity?
Look, I think young Jewish people are like all young people. You’re kind of getting your education, you’re thinking about your life, who you’re going to meet and marry, building a family, all those different pieces. I do think that I have seen a community in the last two-and-a-half years, there are more young Jews from North America serving in the IDF, going to Israel, going to school in Israel.
There is exactly the opposite of what was trying to be achieved is more of an in-depth love and support of Israel for those that are connected and committed. Right. We have many Jews. It’s very interesting. I would just say that Jews have won a tremendous amount of Nobel Prizes. It’s a well documented fact and we’re out there in so many places. Jews’ DNA is to do great things in the world. And either they can do it for really good things or they may get involved with like the other side.
So our young Jews, it’s about telling our story to them and welcoming them in and being able to do what they do. The amount of startups in Tel Aviv today is off the charts. And I would recommend for Jews and non-Jews if you want to go to a place, the place that created Waze and so many other incredible investments. And so I think there are a lot of young Jews saying, hey, I could do that now in Israel. Ironically here, after two-and-a-half years of war, the shekel, right, which is the currency of Israel, is stronger than it’s ever been literally in 20 to 30 years. And the Israel stock exchange is through the roof, right? Which doesn’t make any sense after two-and-a-half years of war, right?
So I think it’s just showing these opportunities on a spiritual level, on a physical level, on a materialistic level, to get involved. But I think there is for the young Jews that have experienced the trauma on campus, there’s a renewed kind of pride and passion for themselves.
Rabbi Burg, I really appreciated your op-ed on RNS, and I’m so grateful for you taking your time here on Complexified today. Thank you so much.
Thank you, Amanda. It was an honor for me to be here. We all have so much in common. The ability to be here with you, have an intelligent, credible, spiritual conversation is very meaningful to me. Thank you.
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