“When we avoid difficult conversations, we trade short-term discomfort for long-term dysfunction.” ~Peter Bromberg

Have you ever looked around at other people’s lives and wondered, “How do they do that?”

How do they seem so steady, so connected, so… together?

From where I stood, there appeared to be a certain kind of person—someone confident, kind, thoughtful, and at ease in her relationships. And because she enjoyed her relationships, she seemed to enjoy her life.

I was not her.

For a long time, I thought I was the “nice” one in my relationships because I avoided confrontational conversations. But …